Todays advice for everyday life comes from an email question from Steph. She writes....."I know most people probably already asked this but why do good looking guys only like skinny girls?? I have had dates before but never a serious boyfriend, and all the guys I have dated are either overweight or ugly. I think I am fairly pretty, I'm just very overweight, why can't guys see my inside rather than my outside?? Please help me out!!"
Steph, you are right, I have been asked this question before so I think it's about time we talk about it. First off, you need to stop dating the guys that you aren't attracted to, it makes you seem insecure, and maybe you are but men love confidence!! Guys aren't just going to run up to you and ask you out if you don't flaunt what you've got. You're a big girl, use those curves to reel them in. Once you've caught their attention they will have the chance to get to know the beautiful inner you.
I realize this is all a lot easier said than done. I know that it's hard to get a guy to notice you when you barely notice yourself. The first step is to start loving yourself. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror, no not the full length body mirror, just the little mirror on your medicine cabinet door. Look at yourself in that mirror and name some things off that you really like about the way you look. For example, if I were doing it, I would say...."I have really beautiful blue eyes." or "I have a great nose." Once you have named off all the features you like about yourself, go to the "evil" full length mirror. I know for most of you this is a nightmare come true, but we aren't going to look at our bodies, we are going to look through our bodies and into our inner selves. Stand in front of that mirror and name off all the things that you think make you a great catch. For example, if I were doing it, I would say..... "I am a very outgoing, fun person to be around." or "I have a great sense of humor." Once you start doing these activities everyday, you are going to start noticing more and more things that you love about yourself, which makes you a more confident person, which makes you more attractive to others.
Now I'm going to tell you a story about a girl who we will call......hmmmm......Sally. Sally was always a thin girl. When she got to college she found the most perfect boy, he was handsome and funny and kindhearted. Sally and.....we will call him Rob.....started dating. They grew to really enjoy each others company and never ran out of things to talk about. Now Rob was a very tall, skinny, attractive guy, a definite target for other girls to want; so when Sally started noticing that she was gaining a lot of weight in a very short amount of time, she got very insecure about her relationship with Rob, thinking he was going to find another girl very soon. Rob kept reassuring her that everything was great between them and after only 4 months of dating, he proposed to Sally. Sally was on cloud 9, but she kept noticing that she was still gaining a ton of weight. Actually she had gone from a size 8 to a size 12 in a matter of a couple of months. Sally was worried so she went to her family doctor who sent her to have some blood work done. When the bloodwork kept coming up normal, Sally started to get depressed, feeling as though she must have eaten her way to her current weight. Finally, the doctors came to a conclusion....Sally must have a thyroid problem. It was the most likely thing because other women in her family had the same problem and it is hereditary. The only problem was that Sally couldn't be put on the proper medication to fix the problem so she was just going to keep getting bigger and bigger. Sally went from a size 12 to a size 20 within 6 months, but Rob had not left her side. He loved her for who she was and actually sill told her how beautiful she was every day. Sally and Rob are still together, it's been 3 years and they are still incredibly happy. Sally found a solution to her thyroid problem through natural supplements but still continues to struggle with her weight.
That story shows that, yes maybe Sally was thin when she first met Rob, but he stayed with her even when she was a size 20. He watched her body completely change but still thought she was as beautiful as her old size 8 self. The reason I told you that story is because it proves that the good looking guys aren't always going to go for the skinny girls. Some guys can look past the weight and see how beautiful you truly are. The right guy for you is going to see all the things that you loved about yourself when you looked in those 2 mirrors. Find your Rob! You may have to do a bit of searching but there are great guys out there that you deserve.
Well I really hope this helped you out Steph :) Thanks for the question, you may have just helped other girls with the same problem.
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